COVID-19 Update: I am not accepting new clients until February 2022. I have openings for in-person, video or phone sessions. I use a secure online video platform called OnCall Health. 

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Never Caught Up, Never Balanced, Never Believed

Why is it that my hidden, silent struggles with ADHD are so often dismissed? Condemned? Ridiculed? The daily challenges are real, and really depleting.

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Simple and Profound Emotional Healing First Aid Kit on getting your emotional wounds healed.

I had the privilege of hearing the author present this live, to a group of Alienated Fathers. Emotional Wounds First Aid Kit, is what we needed to get

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There’s a Name for the Blah You’re Feeling: It’s Called Languishing

The neglected middle child of mental health can dull your motivation and focus — and it may be the dominant emotion of 2021.

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5 Reasons We Resist Psychotherapy (and 4 Reasons We Shouldn't)

5 Reasons We Resist Psychotherapy (and 4 Reasons We Shouldn't) There may be no quick fix, but consider the cost of doing nothing.

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Introducing and Preparing You for Video/Phone Session

Helping you prepare for video or phone psychotherapy sessions.

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Enough fighting and crying, blaming and struggling to hold on

There comes a time in your life you stop dead in your track. Inside your head cries out…ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying, blaming and struggling to hold on!

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What does love look like?

Love is kind, patient. Love always protect, trust, perseveres, hopes. Love is not selfish. Love is not easily angered. Love does not boast. Love is not jealous.

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How to Deal With Unreasonable Demands From Your Boss

When you voice your needs clearly and calmly, you can turn even the worst work nightmare in a productive conversation-creating a sane place to do your best.

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Enough Fighting and Crying, Blaming and Struggling to Hold on!

There comes a time in your life when you finally get it…when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out…ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying, blaming and struggling to hold on!

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Introducing and Preparing You for Video/Phone Session

Due to the coronavirus pandemic social distancing measures, therapists are meeting with clients virtually through video chat or by phone. If this is the first time you are engaging in video/phone sessions, you might have questions or concerns. This information can help prepare yourself for virtual or phone sessions.

Video/Phone Session is an Effective Form of Therapy

Numerous research studies, including one published by the World Journal of Psychiatry, suggest that video/phone sessions are at least as effective as in-person therapy. Virtual sessions enable you to receive support in the midst of social distancing and self-quarantine restrictions. You can expect sessions to be as helpful as if the therapist was meeting with you in person.

Video/Phone Session is a Small Adjustment for Most Clients

If you are familiar with video chats or video conferencing (Skype, FaceTime, Google Hang Outs), you will find the adjustment to video/phone counselling relatively easy. If you do not like communicating through a screen, or have never tried it, you might find it challenging. Once you understand how the technology works, you might need some time to get comfortablewith the idea of talking to your therapist virtually. You can explore any discomfort or awkwardness you may feel about this method of communication, your concerns about what will be different duringsessions, and other issues you may have with your therapist.

Most Insurance Will Cover Video/Phone Session During the Pandemic

If you are concerned whether your insurance will cover therapy, double-check with your insurance provider. Video/phone counselling is covered for all clients during the pandemic, regardless of whether your therapist and you live in the same province.

Preparing Logistically for Your Video/Phone Session

• I use the OnCall Health platform which is fee-based and will not require you to upload special software.

• You will need to test system requirements before your sessions to ensure the video platform will work on your computer or devices, including microphone and camera functions.

• Find a place in your home where you have privacy and little interruption. This is especially important for clients with children and/or pets.

• During sessions, I request that you close your email and turn off distracting notifications. Also close programs that slow the computer's processing ability and interfere with the video quality.

The Use of Therapeutic Homework Assignments Between Video/Phone Sessions

• Therapeutic homework assignments are tasks that you will work on between sessions. Homework is considered to be an important component in most evidence-based therapies, and it is a cost-effective way of increasing the impact of treatment. I will email the PDF documents.

• By using the time between sessions, your completion of homework assignments increases time spent engaging in exercises designed to generalize and transfer in session treatment gains. Engaging in skill-building daily tasks allows you to acquire insight – and you are more likely to view yourself as a proactive instead of “passive” recipient of therapy. Adherence to homework assignments might actually increase your sense of mastery, self-efficacy, and optimism about treatment.

Counselling Life-Coaching For Your Well-Being Needs

My counselling and life coaching services, including: ADHD, depression, anger, stress, anxiety, abuse, fear, violence, self-esteem, addiction, sexuality, spirituality, internet addiction.

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Disability Tax Credit for ADHD or ADD

Welcome To Disability Credit Canada

Disability Credit Canada mission is to help disabled Canadians qualify for Disability Tax Credit & CPP Disability Benefits and then maximize their tax refunds & credits.

We’ve worked with thousands of Canadians suffering from mental and physical disabilities and we understand how impactful your condition can be on you and your family.

We will work with you every step of the way to ensure you can claim the tax benefits that are rightfully yours and we only get paid AFTER you receive your refunds, credits & benefits as we work on 100%

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ADHD Resources

Information on attention deficit disorder symptoms that affect your organization, focus, time management, work success, dating, sex, relationships

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Your Child's ADHD Is an Iceberg

Attention Deficit Disorder is multi-faceted, far-reaching, and largely hidden. What caregivers and educators see poking above the surface are just a fraction of ADHD symptoms. This is critical to keep in mind, and to guide your daily teaching and learning tactics.

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Story

Have been dating a lady whom I found with a child. We have had several trust issues because she was listening to thing from outside people concerning our

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If You Want to Change the Way You Feel, You Must Start with the Way You Think

Change requires new thinking. In order to change, we must learn the truth and start making good choices, but we also must change the way we think.

The way you think determines the way you feel, and the way you feel determines the way you act. If you want to change the way you act, you start by changing the way you think. In addition, if you want to change the way you feel, you must start with the way you think.

For instance, you can say, “I need to love my husband more,” but that isn't going to work. You can't fight your way into a feeling. You must change the way you think about your husband, about your kids, about your wife. That will change the way you feel, which will then change the way you act. The Bible says, “Let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes” (Ephesians 4:23 NLT, second edition).

The battle to deal with those defects in your life that you don't like, starts in your mind. If you want to change anything in your behavior or anything in your emotions, you start with your thoughts and your attitude.

The renewal of your mind is related to the word "repentance." I know repentance is a dirty word for a lot of people. They think it means something bad, something they don't really want to do, something painful. They think of a guy standing on a street corner with a sign that says, “Repent! The world's about to end!"

Repentance has nothing to do with your behavior. It is about changing your mind and learning to think differently. “Repent” simply means to make a mental U-turn.

You turn from guilt to forgiveness. You turn from frustration to freedom, from darkness to light, from hatred and bitterness to love.

You may also need to change the way you think about God. He's not mad at you; he’s mad about you! You’re deeply flawed, but you’re deeply loved.

Start with your mind, and change the way you think about your relationships, the economy, the world, and your past, present, and future. Changing the way you think will then affect your emotions and your behaviour.

By Rick Warren

There's Nothing Else Like Building Your Own Private Practice Website!

Everything is included. All the tools. All in one place. All for one low price.

SBI! is the Process, the Tools, the Guidance & Support that power your ideas. For real. Unlike others who show you how to build a site, but then leave you waiting for traffic that never comes, they teach you and stick with you for the entire process of creating a professional website. SBI provides the education, process and effective, easy-to-use tools; in easy-to-follow steps to help ensure your success from start to finish.

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3 Massive Mistakes People Make That Keep Them From Healing Their Emotional Wounds

Most people think they know all the facts when it comes to the topic of emotional wound care – “if someone hurts or bruises my emotions, I’ll just cover them up and I’m ready to go!” Unfortunately, it is not as simple as that. An emotional wound needs the same special treatment as a physical injury, in order to heal most efficiently and minimize the appearance of scars.

So before you cover up the hurt or injury, you need to know the difference between the facts and the misconceptions on emotional wound care.

Mistake #1: An emotional wound heals best when left alone. Time will do the trick.

Fact: Leaving an emotional wound alone actually slows down the healing process and can lead to further emotional infection and distasteful scars. Increased emotional discomfort and pain often produce symptoms such as anger, stress, fatigue, sadness, irritability, moodiness, resentment, bitterness, loneliness, jealousy and insecurity, just to mention a few.

Untreated emotional wounds can cause physical, mental, emotional and spiritual problems. They can set off mental health disorders such as depression, anxiety and addiction. These wounds can wipe out relationships, lead to job failures, obscure life’s purpose or direction, and ultimately destroy life.

Mistake #2: “Getting even” with the other person is the best way to deal with any emotional injury.

Fact: Getting even with the person who caused the injury may, for a while, release a degree of emotional pain. But in the long run, this action will further inflame your wound. A negative reaction or strategy will create further self-injury. This will only further inflict your wound and make matters worse.

Mistake #3: It is best to let an emotional wound “air out”.

Fact: “Talking out” or “journaling” is the first step in handling an emotional wound. This technique used by itself, without full treatment is, however, as harmful as leaving it alone. Always talking about your pain will not heal the wound. Although you may experience a momentary degree of release, your wound will worsen over time.

The object of proper emotional wound care is to minimize the possibility of infection such as bitterness, resentment, revenge, hatred, hopelessness, rage, depression, fear, addiction, violence, abuse, etc. Emotional infections cause the greatest obstructions to healing.

It is imperative that an emotional wound receives the same treatment as a physical injury, in order to heal most efficiently and minimize the appearance of scars.

Check out my NEW workbook: "Emotional Wound First-Aid Kit" where I teach people the second and final step in treating emotional wounds.

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10 Rules for Emotional Health

10 Rules for Emotional Health - Take time to relax, exercise, eat well, spend time with people you enjoy and activities which you find pleasurable. Healthy Emotions = Healthy Life.

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EMOTIONAL WOUND FIRST-AID KIT

Finally, a FIRST AID KIT for emotional Health and Wellness.

Because the FIRST AID KIT FOR EMOTIONS has been nonexistent most people don't know how to nurse their emotional wounds. Wounds that don't heal can contaminate every aspect of your life. Open wounds affect how you view the world, how you relate to others and how you conduct your life in general.

In Emotional Wound First-Aid Kit, John Schurmann offers specific step-by-step treatments that are fast, simple, and effective. He defines the causes of emotional wounds, and what you can do to repair, heal and maintain optimal health. Using real-life examples of transformed lives and drawing on 30 years of professional experience, Schurmann explains how to:

Assess the seriousness of an emotional injury,

Care for your emotional sores and support the healing,

Let go of the injustice, emotional injury or pain,

Forgive the person or event,

Restore damaged relationships and life dreams,

Protect and strengthen your emotions,

Become your best friend, to love, trust and forgive yourself,

Deepen and enrich your relationships and feel closer to your loved ones,

Believe in yourself and become a positive person,

….and live your life like you always wanted!

Furthermore, the kit provides the central self-care skills to help you develop a healthy, vibrant and resilient mind, heart and spirit. Moreover, it can be used to develop your own self-help program or as an adjunct to therapy.

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Book Your Appointment Online

Schedule your counselling appointment online, and make your payment. It's Quick and Easy.

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Marriage is not about finding the right person, but becoming the right person.

The key to a happy marriage and a happy relationship. It is not trying to control another person or force them to do what you want them to do; it is simply making yourself do what you should do in...

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Making It Fair Sharing Household Tasks

How To Share Relationship Roles Equally - Making It Fair: Who Will Do What and Why?

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How to Reignite Intimacy in a Sexless Marriage

How to Reignite Intimacy in a Sexless Marriage. THE LACK OF AN ONGOING, MUTUALLY SATISFYING SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP HAS SERIOUS CONSEQUENCES. It creates distance, friction, opening the window to divorce.

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HELPING YOUR PARTNER DEFUSE YOU

HELPING YOUR PARTNER DEFUSE YOU. When you want to let off steam, it can be frustrating if you are open and your partner is closed. Some people have a hard time listening because they fear

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Getting Your Teen Help for Video Game Addiction

Gaming addiction can have serious physical, emotional, and social consequences. Getting your teen help for video game addiction is the first action to take. This article is full of helps for you and

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DISSOLVING SEXUAL DIFFERENCES

Dissolving sexual differiences. One of the most common differences in relationships is over sex. The more demanding one person becomes, the less the other wants to give. Often, if the sexually

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Benefits of Talk Therapy

Most people are still unaware of the benefits of talk therapy. Talk therapy provides the opportunity for clients to learn the right skills to empty their emotional trash and to keep the emotional . .

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Prepare/Enrich your relationship

PREPARE/ENRICH is one of the best, most effective, easy-to-use relationship assessment tools available.

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Counselling Life-Coaching Qualification and Experience

John Schurmann qualification and experience is superb. I am a registered clinical social worker, individual, marriage and family psychotherapist, life coach, writer, speaker, radio co-host . . .

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Stay Good With Anger

Anger is a good emotion when it gets us moving, but if we let it take root, we set ourselves up for a great deal of potential harm. Find the best tools to get good with anger.

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Nursing Your Depression

The quickest way to lift your depression is to remove the amount of negative energizing activities in your life and fill your life with positive energizer activities.

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The Social Worker in Private Practice

Social workers provide the majority of counselling and psychotherapy services in Ontario. Find out more . . .

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Invest in your emotional health and wellness

Invest in your emotional, mental and spiritual health and wellness. Over 90% of people who have completed counselling and life coaching report to enjoy a healthier self. It does not mean that you are

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Emotional Healing Self-Help Community

Emotional Healing Self-Help Community

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How Counselling and Life Coaching Works

I pride myself in providing you with the highest quality assessment and counselling and life coaching services geared to your convenience and comfort level.

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Counselling Life Coaching for Your Career Needs

Counselling Life Coaching for Your Career Needs. Have no idea what career path to take? Taking a career test can help! Give yourself every advantage, and make the best decisions possible.

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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Simplified

Anyone can learn the basics of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). A step by step worksheet to help you change your thinking and feel good.

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ADD or ADHD Counselling, Treatment, ADHD Specialist in Markham

We offer ADHD counselling which help you to become an expert of your ADD/ADHD. We have helped 1000s to identify, develop, manage, and celebrate their ADD/ADHD.

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Twenty Reasons to Have Sex When You Don’t Feel Like It

Twenty Reasons to Have Sex When You Don’t Feel Like It. Sex has many advantages to both people involved: helps you forget, rewires you for pleasure, pain relief, forever young . . .

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What is ADHD

ADHD is now recognized as being a lifelong disorder that is most commonly identified in school aged children but that carries on throughout adolescence and into adulthood for many people.

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4 Keys to Being Happy

Want to be happy? Find 4 life keys to create your ultimate happiness.

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Spiritual Self-Control

Self-control is restraint practiced over one's own emotions, impulses, or desires. Learn spiritual tips to help you practice the self-control skills.

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7 Spiritual Health Killers

A checklist of 7 spiritual health killer. Is your spiritual life flat? See what's making it flat. 7 tools to keep your spiritual life inspiring.

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The quest for forgiveness...

To whoever is reading this: I don't want to mention my name or who I am. But what I do want to say is, I have never seen anything that is more effective

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Top 100 Life Coach blogs

Check out the infographic on ”Top 100 Life Coach blogs”

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Learn valuable skills and improve your quality of life

Are you stressed and barely coping from day to day? Learn valuable skills and improve your quality of life with Schurmann Counselling and Life Coaching.

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I joint partnership with Dalton Associates

Psychologist Services are now provided in partnership with Dalton Associates.

To utilize Psychologist coverage under your employee health insurance plan, please call Dalton Associates to register with Mr. John Schurmann (1-888-245-5516).

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Social Worker fees can now be claimed as a medical expense on your income tax return

Social Workers got approved for the medical expense tax credit. This means that Social Workers are now listed in the CRA chart of “Medical Practitioner” and fees for counselling services can now be deducted by the public on income tax returns.