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3 Massive Mistakes People Make That Keep Them From Healing Their Emotional Wounds

Most people think they know all the facts when it comes to the topic of emotional wound care – “if someone hurts or bruises my emotions, I’ll just cover them up and I’m ready to go!” Unfortunately, it is not as simple as that. An emotional wound needs the same special treatment as a physical injury, in order to heal most efficiently and minimize the appearance of scars.

So before you cover up the hurt or injury, you need to know the difference between the facts and the misconceptions on emotional wound care.

Mistake #1: An emotional wound heals best when left alone. Time will do the trick.

Fact: Leaving an emotional wound alone actually slows down the healing process and can lead to further emotional infection and distasteful scars. Increased emotional discomfort and pain often produce symptoms such as anger, stress, fatigue, sadness, irritability, moodiness, resentment, bitterness, loneliness, jealousy and insecurity, just to mention a few.

Untreated emotional wounds can cause physical, mental, emotional and spiritual problems. They can set off mental health disorders such as depression, anxiety and addiction. These wounds can wipe out relationships, lead to job failures, obscure life’s purpose or direction, and ultimately destroy life.

Mistake #2: “Getting even” with the other person is the best way to deal with any emotional injury.

Fact: Getting even with the person who caused the injury may, for a while, release a degree of emotional pain. But in the long run, this action will further inflame your wound. A negative reaction or strategy will create further self-injury. This will only further inflict your wound and make matters worse.

Mistake #3: It is best to let an emotional wound “air out”.

Fact: “Talking out” or “journaling” is the first step in handling an emotional wound. This technique used by itself, without full treatment is, however, as harmful as leaving it alone. Always talking about your pain will not heal the wound. Although you may experience a momentary degree of release, your wound will worsen over time.

The object of proper emotional wound care is to minimize the possibility of infection such as bitterness, resentment, revenge, hatred, hopelessness, rage, depression, fear, addiction, violence, abuse, etc. Emotional infections cause the greatest obstructions to healing.

It is imperative that an emotional wound receives the same treatment as a physical injury, in order to heal most efficiently and minimize the appearance of scars.

Check out my NEW workbook: "Emotional Wound First-Aid Kit" where I teach people the second and final step in treating emotional wounds.

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EMOTIONAL WOUND FIRST-AID KIT

Finally, a FIRST AID KIT for emotional Health and Wellness.

Because the FIRST AID KIT FOR EMOTIONS has been nonexistent most people don't know how to nurse their emotional wounds. Wounds that don't heal can contaminate every aspect of your life. Open wounds affect how you view the world, how you relate to others and how you conduct your life in general.

In Emotional Wound First-Aid Kit, John Schurmann offers specific step-by-step treatments that are fast, simple, and effective. He defines the causes of emotional wounds, and what you can do to repair, heal and maintain optimal health. Using real-life examples of transformed lives and drawing on 30 years of professional experience, Schurmann explains how to:

Assess the seriousness of an emotional injury,

Care for your emotional sores and support the healing,

Let go of the injustice, emotional injury or pain,

Forgive the person or event,

Restore damaged relationships and life dreams,

Protect and strengthen your emotions,

Become your best friend, to love, trust and forgive yourself,

Deepen and enrich your relationships and feel closer to your loved ones,

Believe in yourself and become a positive person,

….and live your life like you always wanted!

Furthermore, the kit provides the central self-care skills to help you develop a healthy, vibrant and resilient mind, heart and spirit. Moreover, it can be used to develop your own self-help program or as an adjunct to therapy.

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