Change requires new thinking. In order to change, we must learn the truth and start making good choices, but we also must change the way we think.
The way you think determines the way you feel, and the way you feel determines the way you act. If you want to change the way you act, you start by changing the way you think. In addition, if you want to change the way you feel, you must start with the way you think.
For instance, you can say, “I need to love my husband more,” but that isn't going to work. You can't fight your way into a feeling. You must change the way you think about your husband, about your kids, about your wife. That will change the way you feel, which will then change the way you act. The Bible says, “Let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes” (Ephesians 4:23 NLT, second edition).
The battle to deal with those defects in your life that you don't like, starts in your mind. If you want to change anything in your behavior or anything in your emotions, you start with your thoughts and your attitude.
The renewal of your mind is related to the word "repentance." I know repentance is a dirty word for a lot of people. They think it means something bad, something they don't really want to do, something painful. They think of a guy standing on a street corner with a sign that says, “Repent! The world's about to end!"
Repentance has nothing to do with your behavior. It is about changing your mind and learning to think differently. “Repent” simply means to make a mental U-turn.
You turn from guilt to forgiveness. You turn from frustration to freedom, from darkness to light, from hatred and bitterness to love.
You may also need to change the way you think about God. He's not mad at you; he’s mad about you! You’re deeply flawed, but you’re deeply loved.
Start with your mind, and change the way you think about your relationships, the economy, the world, and your past, present, and future. Changing the way you think will then affect your emotions and your behaviour.
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Most people think they know all the facts when it comes to the topic of emotional wound care – “if someone hurts or bruises my emotions, I’ll just cover them up and I’m ready to go!” Unfortunately, it is not as simple as that. An emotional wound needs the same special treatment as a physical injury, in order to heal most efficiently and minimize the appearance of scars.
So before you cover up the hurt or injury, you need to know the difference between the facts and the misconceptions on emotional wound care.
Mistake #1: An emotional wound heals best when left alone. Time will do the trick.
Fact: Leaving an emotional wound alone actually slows down the healing process and can lead to further emotional infection and distasteful scars. Increased emotional discomfort and pain often produce symptoms such as anger, stress, fatigue, sadness, irritability, moodiness, resentment, bitterness, loneliness, jealousy and insecurity, just to mention a few.
Untreated emotional wounds can cause physical, mental, emotional and spiritual problems. They can set off mental health disorders such as depression, anxiety and addiction. These wounds can wipe out relationships, lead to job failures, obscure life’s purpose or direction, and ultimately destroy life.
Mistake #2: “Getting even” with the other person is the best way to deal with any emotional injury.
Fact: Getting even with the person who caused the injury may, for a while, release a degree of emotional pain. But in the long run, this action will further inflame your wound. A negative reaction or strategy will create further self-injury. This will only further inflict your wound and make matters worse.
Mistake #3: It is best to let an emotional wound “air out”.
Fact: “Talking out” or “journaling” is the first step in handling an emotional wound. This technique used by itself, without full treatment is, however, as harmful as leaving it alone. Always talking about your pain will not heal the wound. Although you may experience a momentary degree of release, your wound will worsen over time.
The object of proper emotional wound care is to minimize the possibility of infection such as bitterness, resentment, revenge, hatred, hopelessness, rage, depression, fear, addiction, violence, abuse, etc. Emotional infections cause the greatest obstructions to healing.
It is imperative that an emotional wound receives the same treatment as a physical injury, in order to heal most efficiently and minimize the appearance of scars.
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