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Four-Step Approach to Healing Your Emotional Wounds, Injuries or Pains!

"Emotional Wound First-Aid Kit: A Comprehensive
Guide for Rapid Healing"

This ebook outlines a four-step approach to help you:

Heal your emotional wounds, injuries or pains,
Connect more deeply with yourself and others, and
Enhance your relationship with yourself and others in your life.

Do you find yourself wondering;

“WHY DO I OFTEN FEEL HURT, ANGRY OR OVER-SENSITIVE?”

Many of us feel this way. We long to be more happy, peaceful and pleasant with ourselves, and kinder to those we love. Yet no matter what we do, we can’t seem to get there.

As a licensed social worker, individual-couple-family psychotherapist, and life coach I have spent twenty+ years helping people get the life they really want. Over that time, I have found that "our feeling disconnected" from others has a great deal to do with our own emotional wounds, emotional injuries or emotional pains, and with our negative beliefs and thoughts of ourself.

WHAT IS AN EMOTIONAL WOUND, INJURY OR PAIN?

The answer may surprise you. A wide range of life factors can cause emotional wounds and open emotional sores. Most, however, are caused by someone or an event that emotionally hurt you.

Examples of Emotional Wounds Caused by People

Saying and doing things to hurt a person
Saying or doing things to hurt yourself
Rude, degrading or offensive remarks
Gestures that seek to intimidate and control
Discrediting a person by spreading rumours
Belittling, disregarding, devaluing, disrespecting
Yelling at a person, threatening, prohibiting someone from speaking to others
Destabilizing a person, making fun of his convictions, his tastes and his political and religious choices
Invalidating, ridiculing, humiliating, shouting abuse
Self-inflicted offences brought on by you such as drug, alcohol, sexual, gambling and internet addiction
Inflicting physical, emotional and sexual abuse on a person

Examples of Emotional Wounds Caused by Events

Death of a loved one, friend or colleague
Ending of an important relationship (boyfriend-girlfriend)
Marital separation, divorce and extra marital-affair
Broken family due to divorce, devastating event or war
Feelings of hurt associated with moving away from school, neighbours, home, country, etc.
Physical impairment – accident, illness, etc.
Loss of a pet, property, or material possession
Witnessed or experienced a trauma, a devastating event, violence- an assault, rape, war or persecution
Witnessed or experienced physical, emotional or sexual abuse

Even more suprising is that most people don't know how to nurse their emotional wounds. Wounds that don't heal can contaminate every aspect of your life. Open wounds affect how you view the world, how you relate to others and how you conduct your life in general.

Untreated emotional wounds can cause physical, mental, emotional and spiritual problems. They can set off mental health disorders such as depression, anxiety and addiction. They can wipe out relationships, add to job failures, obscure life’s purpose or direction, and ultimately destroy life.

But, no more!

You'll learn how to:

Assess the seriousness of an emotional wound,

Care for your emotional wounds and support the healing,

Let go of the injustice, emotional injury or pain,

Forgive the person or event,

Restore damaged relationships and life dreams,

Protect and strengthen your emotions,

Become your best friend, to love, trust and forgive yourself,

Deepen and enrich your relationships and feel closer to your loved ones,

Craft character, strengthen self-confidence, self-esteem, emotional and spiritual intelligence,

Believe in yourself and become a positive person,

….and live your life like you always wanted!

DO I HAVE EMOTIONAL WOUNDS?

I don't know. But some people think I do.

Lets find out! Complete this short Emotional Wound Assessment tool.

So, What Does the Assessment Say?

If more than five statements are circled there is reason to suspect that you have an emotional injury, wound or pain.

Here's one example of the results I'm getting,
using the strategies
I share with you in this book:

"My present existence was being severely compromised by a not so healthy past.

John's book, the 'Emotional Wound First-Aid Kit' indeed guided me through a process that allowed me to purge myself of that unhealthy past, become reacquainted with myself and learn to love myself.

Thank you, John." (Lawyer)

Quick Fixes Sound Good, but They Don’t Work!

The strategies in this book offer more than a quick fix. They are based on cutting-edge research about how emotions heal.

When I first began using the program in my private practice, I had no idea that it would become one of the most successful and effective tools to help heal emotional injuries and wounds.

This book is full of stories of transformation - people who felt stuck, alone, despairing - finding the courage to face their emotional wounds, taking the risk to open up to their feelings, changing in ways they never imagined possible.

THE SAME CAN HAPPEN FOR YOU. With the right tools and practice your life and your relationships can be better.

The strategies described in this book will help solve relationship problems, depression and anger issues, improve self-esteem and restore emotional health. This book teaches techniques that have been helpful with emotional injuries such as sexual abuse, violence and psychological trauma. Furthermore, the program will provide the right life skills to help build your LOVE and APPRECIATION for self and your spouse, friends and/or family members.

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What Others Are Saying

"The Emotional Wound First-Aid Kit uses great metaphoric representations of many powerful sentiments. A clear and simple self-help workbook that will undoubtedly assist many people in moving towards wellness at an accelerated pace. Many others will find this book the perfect adjunct to their journaling and a useful roadmap for action oriented psychotherapy". David Fairweather SWC. CHt. Psychodynamic Psychotherapist – A Development in Mind

Where would I be today if I had not used the
"Emotional Wound First-Aid Kit?"

“When it was suggested to me that I do the program and address the issues that had terrified and brought me to the brink of self destruction, I was absolutely flabbergasted, angry, uncomprehending and offended.

Why was it up to me to make the effort, the first kind gesture in the whole situation? It just didn’t seem right at all. It seemed that I would be caving in….falling prey again to being vulnerable and opening up to a place where I may be attacked again. I’m not sure how I would be attacked, but I had put up defences and writing such a letter seemed to me that I would be bringing down my only way to survive.

Hell, I had just gotten to a place where I was not barricading the doors and windows or walking around with a knife. How could I forget all that had happened in order to “cleanse” myself? It did not make any sense at all to me.

But, because of a wonderful person showing me how to cope with a traumatic, life changing challenge, I was willing to try. Only because it seemed I could not move any further ahead. I was at a crossroad, but didn’t even know it. The suggestion seemed too bizarre to work, but I trusted enough to figure I had nothing to lose at that point.

I was told to choose someone I trusted to be there in the room or the next room just in case it was too overwhelming for me to relive. I got a friend whom I knew would let me work this out, let me cry or scream, even be afraid again, and would just help me feel safe to go back to that morning.

The first step was the hardest. After that, I ended up completing the program. The assingments got me to address my feelings of how I truly felt towards this person.

The program gave me the courage to become the better person and to become the braver person. I had no choice as to what he had done, but now I had a choice as to how I would remove the aftermath of the chaos that had been created. Having a choice gave me a power over my own life, over my own feelings and truly released me from the bondage that was surrounding me.

I swept away the final bitterness that was in my heart and that was replaced with a calm that had been lacking for quite some time. This does not mean that I’m cured. At times I still experience some of those feelings. But now, I can take them out, examine them, and put them back with the knowledge I have learned.

Working the program gave me the safest way to feel freedom. It was not easy, but I would do it again in an instant for any other circumstances that would require forgiveness of someone who harmed me in any way.

Well, I would not be able to face life on life's terms. I would still have fear and anger in my heart.

I think the worst part would be that I would still be a victim. Now, instead, I am an advocate of living life, instead of cowering behind vicious people and their own demons. I would not be able to be an example to my children of how to overcome hate, much of which was my own.

I would not have been able to show people that it's okay to reach out when I felt so alone. To not only rely on friends and family, but sometimes to realize that professionals can become the rock to lean upon and learn from, so that I may be able to pass along the wisdom I receive.

Completing the program, at least for me, took more courage than anything I have ever done before, because I had to face my own fears. First, to identify them, then really face them and to give them a name, so that I could learn to deal with them.

To learn more about myself...that is where I really am”.

Thank you, John, for writing this book. Without your help, I would still be living with fear, bitterness and mistrust."

Sample Peek of the Book

Introduction

With the potential to change millions of lives, the "Emotional Wound First-Aid Kit" can truly change your life. I am convinced that it will be read, reread, and recommended as an essential tool. Physicians, therapists, patients, and all those seeking to heal their emotional wounds can benefit greatly from it.

Many who have used the methods outlined in this book, have come to view the initial discomfort that led them to the "Emotional Wound First-Aid Kit" as a “blessing in disguise.” Through their pain, they have discovered this step-by-step first aid program based on sound principles to help restore and maintain emotional health. I trust this will be your experience too!

The approach teaches you to apply and practice the skills until they become second nature. Having the knowledge alone is not enough. Each step in the program is based on mastery of the work that precedes it. However painful the steps may be, they are necessary, to begin the path to healing.

Facts about Emotional Wound Care

What does emotional pain feel like or look like? How do you assess the seriousness of an emotional injury, wound or pain? What are the normal responses to emotional trauma? We are usually well informed about the symptoms of, and treatment procedures for physical injury. We expect the injury to hurt and heal.

Regarding emotional injury and bruising, however, we are not sure what to expect. Most people think they know all the facts when it comes to the topic of emotional wound care – “if someone hurts or bruises my emotions, I’ll just cover them up and I’m ready to go!” Unfortunately, it is not as simple as that. An emotional wound needs the same special treatment as a physical injury, in order to heal most efficiently and minimize the appearance of scars.

So before you cover up the hurt or injury, you need to know the difference between the facts and the misconceptions on emotional wound care.

Emotional Wound Assessment Tool

Complete this short Emotional Wound Assessment tool.

If more than five statements are circled there is reason to suspect that you have an emotional injury, wound or pain present in your life.

Emotional Wounds: Overview

Healing an emotional wound, injury or pain is much like healing a physical wound. Left untreated, a wound or open sore can cause serious problems.

Definition
A Mixture of Symptoms
Degree of Emotional Pain
Case Studies of High-Impact Wounding
Treatment Methods
Importance of Rapid Wound Care and Healing
First Hand Experience with the Cleansing Tool

STEP 1: Cleaning the Wound

Here you will learn how to clean your emotional wound. Step one will guide you through the cleaning process and teach you the emotional cleansing techniques.

Using the Cleansing Tool
Checking In
Know when Your Emotional Wound is Clean

STEP 2: Destroying the Contaminants

For most people, step two is the most exhilarating part of the cleansing process. Here, you will get to put an end to all the misery and emotional viruses that have held you prisoner for too long. You will get to destroy them once and for all.

Three Ways to Destroy the Contaminants

STEP 3: Treating the Wound

Step three will teach you how to apply the disinfectant ointment - forgiveness medicine. Open wounds may remain somewhat contaminated and therefore become potential sites for further emotional infection. The best way to prevent infection is to disinfect the wounds. This action will discourage further growth of emotional bacteria such as a grudge, bitterness, resentment and anger.

Making a Promise to Yourself
Forgiveness and Letting Go

STEP 4: Protecting the Wound

Now that your wound is clean, you don't want to leave it open and unprotected. At this point of the process your wound is fully exposed to all of life's elements - both healthy and harmful. Step four will help you to become an expert in protecting and caring for your emotional wound, to keep your emotional health in tip-top shape.

Steps to Protect and Care-For the Wound
Steps to Keep Your Emotional Health in Tip-Top Shape
Understanding Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs)
Creating Positive Energizing Thoughts (PETs)
Love Triangle

Final Thoughts

I have elaborated four steps on Healing Your Emotional Wounds. For every person the profile of the emotional wounding will be different. The process of healing will be the same.

Untreated emotional wounds will cause physical, mental, emotional and spiritual impairment. They can set off mental health disorders such as depression, anxiety and addiction. They can wipe out relationships, add to job failures, obscure life purpose or direction, and ultimately destroy life. Airing out the emotional wound, along with letting the injustice go, forgiving the person and acquiring proper emotional self-defence skills will minimize the risk of further infection and maximize the healing process.

I invite you to continue to be a team player in the growth of your life so you can heal your past, build your present and shape your future. Give yourself full permission to love yourself, to be yourself, to trust yourself, to be honest with yourself, to forgive yourself, to be your best friend, to love others and honour your God.

Living with scars does not mean you are disadvantaged or incomplete. As a matter of fact, healed wounds help craft character, self-confidence, emotional intelligence, spiritual maturity, honest relationships, contentment and “the real stuff” we all long to experience. Your healing has unlocked large reservoirs of fuel (new knowledge and wisdom) which will supply new wealth of strength for you to continue your work in becoming your very best.

For a limited time offer, take advantage of the
SALE PRICE:

$17.95

Regular Price: $24.95

Buy the eBook Now
with PayPal or Credit Card:

Downloadable eBook (PDF File)

Immediately after your purchase, you can download your ebook and start learning new success strategies, tips, and secrets within minutes.

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